I’m sick of the moaning, seriously I am. ‘Why can’t I have more money?’ ‘Why is this process so hard?’ ‘Why doesn’t the organisation do it this way?’ ‘Why does he/she behave that way?’ ‘I’ve been here a thousand years, why haven’t I been promoted?’. Why, why, why?
I’ll tell you why, it’s because of the following:
1. You lack self-awareness and want others to change instead
2. You lack the ability to grab accountability and make a difference
3. You want everything on a plate without doing any more to earn it
If you wake up every morning (you should celebrate that, by the way) asking yourself ‘why?’, the first question you should be asking yourself, is ‘what can I do to change this situation?’ and guess what, you can always do something because there isn’t a single person in the world who is the model employee and knows everything. So what can you do to change it?
- Can you do that thing that is frustrating you in a different way?
- Can you talk to someone in a different way?
- Can you escalate your problem or ask someone (internal or external) for guidance?
- Is there anything you can do to understand the situation/problem better?
- Are you just reacting badly to a necessary change?
- Do you understand what your priorities are?
- Do you have any kind of plan – that you’re following – to get to the end of what you’re doing?
- Can you just stop thinking about someone else and get on with doing your job to the best of your ability?
- Should you just leave and get another job?
If you want the bigger, better job with more money and responsibility then chances are you’ll have to change. Any kinds of increase (financial or status) will depend on your ability to lead, learn, inspire, encourage, fail, succeed and pass the credit back to the team; oh and to stop whining like a child being forced to eat liver (look, I just hated the texture of it, ok?).
This is how you get noticed. This is how you demonstrate your worth, gain respect and this is the way to contentment in your working life.
If you don’t want that contentment, then pack it in with the moaning during working hours and stop bringing everyone else down because you think the world owes you something. Show up at 9, sit in your corner, do your best, then leave at 5. If you have to moan about it, save it for your partner or pet because your problem isn’t your job, your problem is you.